I can't recall meeting anyone at this point who shoots field target and doesn't love it, but I've seen the posts that seem to indicate they are out there. I definitely get the impression that the "mean drunks" of the field target world are around and all I can say is "Relax...it's just a game".
If you no longer love what you are doing or the environment that you are doing it in then maybe it's time to change something -- you, your environment, or even your sport. I see my son playing XBOX and yelling at the screen a lot and I keep saying to him "it's just a game", the program doesn't know how to cheat, relax... And if he keeps it up much longer after that I tell him to take a break.
Some people try and tell me that the older you are the more set in your ways and I say B.S. You are never too old to try something new or to make a life change. You don't have to be the person that everyone hates to shoot with or can't stand to talk to because it always ends in an argument or tirade or just unpleasant conversation. Each of us can control only 1 person, and that is ourselves. You make the choice to be an enjoyable person to be around or not. No-one else can make that decision for you and you also have the ability to react or not react to what happens around you.
I get it, it's tough to step back. I find myself having to "get back from the ledge" at times. At one point in my career I was talking to a co-worker about an incident that really set me off. What left me speechless was "why did that upset you?" I opened my mouth to say something but I couldn't figure out why it upset me. I had reacted first without any real reason to be upset. Sounds stupid, right? Next time you find yourself getting upset ask yourself "Why did that upset you?" If you're honest with yourself you might find that there isn't any reason at all to be upset.
So, to all the "mean drunks" of the field target world, or elsewhere, I say to you "Relax...it's just a game"